Money Matters....

I was on my forum a few minutes ago and saw that a friend posted a recipe for a chocolate pudding cake. It sounded simple and easy, and best of all, it sounded GOOD. No icing, either.... which is the best thing of all when it comes to 'cake' for this family. Easter is coming, and while we do steer clear of desserts normally, when we have a family dinner with the whole bunch of us, we look forward to a bit of dessert.... Gabe got his 'ask' in first for a pineapple upside down cake... and Katy's Chocolate Pudding Cake will be a nice contrast for that. I'm pleased to have that huge decision made. lol I haven't been in the best of moods. Thursday evening, just as I was preparing to go to bed, Lar decided to bring up money matters. There is NO good time to discuss money. We simply do not have the same priorities and the easiest way to make me angry is to ask me 'what did you do with all that money that was back there?' Now, before y'all start thinking that I was stealing his money, No... not that way at all. My income is all deposited into our checking account. Lar gets his check and he does his banking and brings home cash for the week; he puts household money in the same certain spot in the bedroom. We use from it during the week for gas, groceries, his bowling, bills... whatever. We try to be mindful of the other person's expenses. Well, Lar planned to use some of the money he brought home for another purpose, and he didn't tell me. I took the money and paid our dues for an organization we belong to. It was a sizeable amount because we pay for the kids, too. He was not happy with me... and my feelings were hurt. I let it be known that if he planned the money for something else he should have put it aside, and not where he puts the money I use.... Well, money discussions never run smooth with us... and this was no exception to the normal. He went off on his tangents, like he does, and I got furious, like I always do. It escalated into other areas, too, and I was just stunned at the things he was saying! Forget sleep, I was going to stay up after that because I knew I'd never be able to sleep, and frankly I was mad as hell that he had to start in with this and a bunch of other scolding junk that he's been saving up.... He insisted I go to bed. Of course he was snoring in less than three minutes, while I was awake for at least two hours, fuming. I woke up at four o'clock and got up. By then he was in his deep sleep and I could have marched through the house banging a drum and he wouldn't have stirred. Fast forward to Friday night... He announces that I need 'attention', his word for spanking. I was not happy. I didn't think I'd done one thing to deserve a spanking. He started the whole mess, and he was in the wrong..... Not me! Well, he wasn't about to be talked out of it. He used the cane to spank with, and it was a bit more than a reminder. I went right to sleep afterwards. Yes, I probably did need the spanking to find some inner control, but man I hate getting spanked when I think he deserves one, too! He tried to be nice yesterday and we went out to dinner, but the plans I made to talk were thwarted when we were seated too close to other diners to have any privacy for a discussion. When we got home I ran upstairs to do a project for him that was to take two minutes; the telephone rang, and it was my brother for me... by the time I came down, Lar was sound asleep on the sofa, and he didn't wake up until bedtime. He is exhausted from all the crazy hours he is working. I am hoping that we can find some time today for a discussion. My laptop died. And, somehow, my backups were deleted on that little thingy my brother gave me to transfer information from one computer to another. So, I am praying that my brother can do some of his magic and find a way to retrieve my files from the laptop. Nope, not my best week..... This week will be better!!!